I have a love hate relationship with my hair, evey other day I want to cut cause it's not growing out properly and because of how society is obsessed with hair length, I face constant comparison from my friend about whose hair is longer and it irritates me. I'm not in love with my natural hair and sometimes cutting it of is because I can't not braid it how I want and can't afford a wig. I might cut my hair, it's a mid life crisis thing
Hmm, your hair is not growing out properly how? Is it heat damaged? Also, yes, we exist in a length-obsessed society but *you* don’t have to buy into it. I know it’s sooo much easier said than done, but it’s a whole journey and battle to unlearn these beauty standards and exist as you are. I don’t think the journey ever ends tbh. On the friends who constantly compares your hair to hers, that’s really weird behaviour I think you should call out and set boundaries with. Caring for your natural hair involves time, energy and intentionality and sometimes you might not have the bandwidth for that and it’s okay. Like I said before, it’s all a journey to discovering what works for you and I hope you eventually figure it out, treating yourself and your hair with the kindness you both deserve 🫶🏾
I don't like the texture and density of my hair and it feel very unhealthy cause i don't take care of it the way I should, unlearning these beauty standard is going to take a bit but I will unlearn them. I will definitely be calling out my friend just don't know how to yet
I hope somehow, some way, you get the chance to take care of your hair the way you feel it deserves. Good luck on this journey of hair acceptance and boundary setting, you’re not in it alone :)
This was such a wonderful read❤️. I remember that relaxer story😂😂😂😂. Truth be told, you inspired me with styling and wearing my hair proudly in uni or should I say “our glorified secondary school “ because that braiding a particular color thing became so exhausting at a point.
I wish I was thought how to love my hair earlier especially being on the thin and forever bound to Afro length style. Although I never attempted to relax, I always resorted to cutting it when i got tired of the frustration it took to maintain it.
I see a lot of parents embracing and learning about maintenance of the average 4b, 4c hair texture found in Africans and it makes me feel so proud. Although there’s still a lot more exposure to be done towards protective styling, maintenance etc. I dare say, the future is bright for the Afro hair.
Aww not me inspiring you 🙈 Unfortunately, so many of us weren’t taught to understand our hair, talk less of love it, but like you said, we’re making progress. I hope you continue to grow to love your hair and appreciate it for all it is. Thank you for reading, Debz 🫶🏾
welcome back fatima!!! we missed you (yes i am speaking for everyone lol).
i loved reading this, and i loved the discussion about black hair and beauty. it's funny how we've ingested so many toxic ideals about our natural hair and how we've chosen to live life with these frankly stupid ideals. i'm also on a journey to reclaiming my natural hair. it was nice to read you detail yours. your hair is soooo beautiful by the way
That Pinterest board is stunning. Thank you for sharing your hair journey and reminding me of the beauty that is natural black hair 🖤
Thank you for reading. I’m so glad you enjoyed it :)
I have a love hate relationship with my hair, evey other day I want to cut cause it's not growing out properly and because of how society is obsessed with hair length, I face constant comparison from my friend about whose hair is longer and it irritates me. I'm not in love with my natural hair and sometimes cutting it of is because I can't not braid it how I want and can't afford a wig. I might cut my hair, it's a mid life crisis thing
Hmm, your hair is not growing out properly how? Is it heat damaged? Also, yes, we exist in a length-obsessed society but *you* don’t have to buy into it. I know it’s sooo much easier said than done, but it’s a whole journey and battle to unlearn these beauty standards and exist as you are. I don’t think the journey ever ends tbh. On the friends who constantly compares your hair to hers, that’s really weird behaviour I think you should call out and set boundaries with. Caring for your natural hair involves time, energy and intentionality and sometimes you might not have the bandwidth for that and it’s okay. Like I said before, it’s all a journey to discovering what works for you and I hope you eventually figure it out, treating yourself and your hair with the kindness you both deserve 🫶🏾
I don't like the texture and density of my hair and it feel very unhealthy cause i don't take care of it the way I should, unlearning these beauty standard is going to take a bit but I will unlearn them. I will definitely be calling out my friend just don't know how to yet
I hope somehow, some way, you get the chance to take care of your hair the way you feel it deserves. Good luck on this journey of hair acceptance and boundary setting, you’re not in it alone :)
loved this piece so much.
Thank you, Tres
This was such a wonderful read❤️. I remember that relaxer story😂😂😂😂. Truth be told, you inspired me with styling and wearing my hair proudly in uni or should I say “our glorified secondary school “ because that braiding a particular color thing became so exhausting at a point.
I wish I was thought how to love my hair earlier especially being on the thin and forever bound to Afro length style. Although I never attempted to relax, I always resorted to cutting it when i got tired of the frustration it took to maintain it.
I see a lot of parents embracing and learning about maintenance of the average 4b, 4c hair texture found in Africans and it makes me feel so proud. Although there’s still a lot more exposure to be done towards protective styling, maintenance etc. I dare say, the future is bright for the Afro hair.
Aww not me inspiring you 🙈 Unfortunately, so many of us weren’t taught to understand our hair, talk less of love it, but like you said, we’re making progress. I hope you continue to grow to love your hair and appreciate it for all it is. Thank you for reading, Debz 🫶🏾
this is so wholesome!
Thank you :)
welcome back fatima!!! we missed you (yes i am speaking for everyone lol).
i loved reading this, and i loved the discussion about black hair and beauty. it's funny how we've ingested so many toxic ideals about our natural hair and how we've chosen to live life with these frankly stupid ideals. i'm also on a journey to reclaiming my natural hair. it was nice to read you detail yours. your hair is soooo beautiful by the way
Thank you so much, Blessing! I’m glad you resonated with it and I wish you luck on your journey with your hair <3